Thursday, January 31, 2013

the one problem with the planet...

...14 year old men (and the women who act like them).

I'm not arguing for the de-masculinization of the planet (though a good flea dip wouldn't hurt), but for the simple acknowledgement of the fact that most women have known since the beginning of time: Few men ever grow emotionally beyond 14 years old. I'm not being cute or sarcastic. Any extra-planetary, neutral third party would look at our global history, and current economic/political/social/cultural status and determine that we have yet to grow out of the testosterone-driven, ego-based schoolyard bully phase of the 14 year old male.

I'm also not arguing that a world run exclusively by women would solve the planet's problems. Spend time with any group of women and you'll find they bring their own issues to the table. Certainly some balance between the masculine and the feminine would help.

But what would be most helpful now is to simply acknowledge the truth of the 14 year old male and the 14 year old male's view of the world: I am powerless. I must do whatever I can to have power. I don't understand my sexuality. It's out of control. I must have control. To have power is to have control. To share is to be weak. To be weak is to be powerless. I must have mine and I must have yours then I will be back in control.

A 14 year old male sees the world only inhabited by other 14 year old males, also out of control and wanting power. 

What a 14 year old male does not understand is that at the very center of the sense of powerless and being out of control, lies a deep shame of the self, derived primarily from an out-of-control testosterone-driven sexuality that the male ego eventually translates into violence, whether outward or inward. That violence may become physical attack, or the drive to conquer and achieve success at any cost. The ancient kill of the mastodon becomes the 'kill' in the stock market or on the football field, or in the boardroom.

The 40 year old male takes on the trappings of sophisticated language and education and the veneer of civilization, but it is still the 14 year old boy making decisions.

It is time to acknowledge the 14 year old boy wherever he appears, on the sports field, in the house of legislature, on the 'big screen', on the battlefield, in the corporation, in the presidency.

A 14 year old boy needs protection from outside forces he secretly fears. An adult male faces his fears and sees them for what they are: illusions.

A 14 year old boy wants more and more and more. A man has enough to share.

A 14 year old boy doesn't share. A man shares everything, even his last dollar.

A 14 year old boy fears other 14 year old boys. A man fears no one.

A 14 year old boy equates sex with love, power with possession. A man knows the difference and never seeks power over another.

A 14 year old boy sees a violent world and seeks to battle it. A man sees the inner violence and seeks to heal it.

A 14 year old boy shouts out the injustice of the world. A man changes the world.

A 14 year old boy needs a gun. A man holds out an open hand.

A 14 year old boy builds fences and walls. A man takes them down.

A 14 year old boy makes war. A man makes peace.

A 14 year old boy seeks strength and validation outside himself. A man seeks both inside himself.

A 14 year old boy attacks. A man defends, and only the defenseless.

A 14 year old boy is a constant victim. A man is his own master.

A 14 year old boy believes he is a man.

A man knows.

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Giving and receiving

Having had and given, then the world asserts that you have lost what you possessed. 


The truth maintains that giving will increase what you possess. 


How is this possible? For it is sure that if you give a finite thing away, your body's eyes will not perceive it yours. Yet we have learned that things but represent the thoughts that make them. 


And you do not lack for proof that when you give ideas away, you strengthen them in your own mind. Perhaps the form in which the thought seems to appear is changed in giving. Yet it must return to him who gives. 


Nor can the form it takes be less acceptable. It must be more. Ideas must first belong to you, before you give them. If you are to save the world, you first accept salvation for yourself. 


But you will not believe that this is done until you see the miracles it brings to everyone you look upon. Herein is the idea of giving clarified and given meaning. Now you can perceive that by your giving is your store increased. 


Protect all things you value by the act of giving them away, and you are  sure that you will never lose them. What you thought you did not have is thereby proven yours. 
Yet value not its form. For this will change and grow unrecognizable in time, however much you try to keep it safe. No form endures. It is the thought behind the form of things that lives unchangeable. 


Give gladly. You can only gain thereby. The thought remains, and grows in strength as it is reinforced by giving. Thoughts extend as they are shared, for they can not be lost. 


There is no giver and receiver in the sense the world conceives of them. There is a giver who retains; another who will give as well. And both must gain in this exchange, for each will have the thought in form most helpful to him. What he seems to lose is always something he will value less than what will surely be returned to him. 


Never forget you give but to yourself. Who understands what giving means must laugh at the idea of sacrifice. Nor can he fail to recognize the many forms which sacrifice may take. He laughs as well at pain and loss, at sickness and at grief, at poverty, starvation and at death.